Tuesday, July 10, 2012

Best Talk I've Had in Years

Yesterday, I desperately needed some "girl time." I needed a good woman-to-woman heart-to-heart talk. Immediately, I thought of my mom. I needed her advice, wisdom, and guidance.
But I knew that wouldn't come as quickly as I needed.

So, the first person I thought of was my mom's good friend's daughter who just so happens to be my hair stylist :) She's known me since I was a little girl and I've always, always looked up to her.
We planned a little dinner date for yesterday evening and I literally counted down the hours.

Well, Tammie and I sat at the restaurant for about 3 and a half hours chatting about life. We shared stories, lessons we've learned, etc.
In just that small amount of time, I learned so much from her - about how to carry myself as a confident woman, about how to get away from toxic people, about how to parent.

She read a paragraph from a book she is currently reading.
I can't even begin to tell you how perfect and relevant that passage was to my life.
She was meant to read that and share it with me, I just know it.
One day I will share that paragraph with you.

She also mentioned a quote:

“When the pain of what we are going through becomes greater than the fear of change, we change.”

Everything we talked about and everything Tammie told me, was just what I needed to hear.
She also brought two books for me to read which I can't wait to dig into and blog about!

When I got home that night, I realized that was the best talk I've had in years.
I walked away from that talk feeling stronger, braver, and better prepared for what's to come.

Tammie, this one is for you:


After we hugged tight and made plans for a lunch date or haircut, whichever comes first :) I walked to my car knowing this:
*Everything happens for a reason
*The people who've known me the longest really do know what's best
*Focus ahead on the life I truly want
*Oh, and never go anywhere alone ;)

Tammie is truly one of the most genuine, compassionate, and gentle people I have ever met.
For a much-needed girls' night, I thank you! Can't wait for the next!

So, friends - what are some of your favorite tidbits of wisdom that you've walked away with after a girl's night?


Olga said...

I love this, I can feel for you, Chelsea! There's another quote similar to that one which goes "Change happens when the pain of staying the same is greater than the pain of change" It's very true. And also, "There is no way to happiness, happiness is the way"

Katie said...

Aw, this is awesome. So glad you guys got to spend time together and this helped you. It's amazing what time with girlfriends will do :)

Katie said...

ps MISS YOU!!!

Katie said...

ps MISS YOU!!!

Kristina said...

This is a beautiful post. For the past month I have been struggling and it has been heartbreaking. I've figured it would subside but it hasn't. I had a girls day with my best friend and her bits of wisdom were, "We don't have all the answers and we may never have them. But someday this heartbreak will all make some sense." She reminded me what to look at when I have a lapse in faith.

Shayna said...

Sometimes girl time is exactly what you need! So glad that you have her as a friend & can turn to like that! It's so important!

Ashley @ The Sweet Life said...

Thank goodness for nights like this. And friends like that :)

I can agree with that first quote...once the pain gets too intense, it just becomes easier to make a change. Hope the change comes soon and your happiness continues to grow!

Lauran {The Real Young Housewife of Southern VA} said...

so glad you were able to chat with a good friend!!!! Sounds like you are on the way to some seriously good healing!!! She gave some stellar advice!!! Something we all really should take into consideration!!!! xoxo!!!

Ryan+Michelle+Ellie said...

So glad that we can follow each other now!! :) You're amazing!

Amanda C. said...

Seems like you got some resolution. Glad you had a good talk. :)

Kristen said...

awwwww that's wonderful, i love a good talk like that!

Shannon said...

So glad you had that time with a girlfriend! Sometimes it's just a few simple words that really mean the most and give us the strength to keep going. "You deserve more" have always been the words that have stuck with me. So simple, so true.